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A Series of Hormonal Events


“Great to see you! How was your day?” I cheerfully asked as P threw his back pack in the back seat and buckled himself in the car.

Dead silence was all that I got in return along with a look of “you better not ask me that again”.

Having a huge lapse in judgment I repeated, “Great to see you! How was your day?”

P stared out the window in silence, turning his head away from me.

“Here we go again” I thought to myself. Because life right now, in our home {sweet} home, is a series of hormonal events.

Puberty. Just looking at the written word sitting there makes me shutter. It is really the worst word I can imagine right now, as a matter of fact, I consider it a nasty swear word. Pubic is a close second. And to think, they both happen at the same time. The nightmare events that have taken place in our house recently, because of the this word, have prompted D and I to make some hard and fast Puberty Parent Rules. We have found that it is best to follow these rules at all costs to avoid a pubescent melt down.

Rule 1: Don’t ask how P’s day went at school. He just doesn’t want to talk about it. He’s been through a lot today and the last thing he wants to do is relive all the crap he had to endure. Do, however, hang out and around him because eventually he will open up and let you know what is going on.

Rule 2: Make sure P is fed on time. Plain and simple, it is never wise to have a hangry {hungry+angry} 13-year-old in the house. The two together are a recipe for disaster.

Rule 3: Chore charts, Rewards, and Consistency. This is a time for Mr. Grumpy-pants to start pushing the boundaries. Even though life is tough chores and responsibilities grow angry kids into strong adults.

Rule 4: Be extremely kind, patient, and understanding. In case of confrontation ask him to be the same with you. It is only fair, these puberty and parenting things are both very hard to go through. Both sides are learning and growing.

Rule 5: Give hugs and say I love you daily. Prayer is an added bonus. Puberty requires double the love and help from above just to make it through each day.

I have decided it must be a curse that entering middle school is timed directly with puberty. Not only is P’s body is going through the biggest hormonal change in life, but “hey let’s pull you from everything you know and stick you in a school with kids from six other schools too. Oh, and by the way, your friends don’t get to have classes with you unless you are really lucky. Furthermore because there are three different lunch hours you probably won’t see your friends there either. So get ready to sit alone, be alone, and feel alone.”

On the other side of it things are also unfair for the parents. Each child is different and will pull out various corporal parent punishments that are completely unwarranted. Just when you think you are handling something right you realize that it isn’t working and life in your house is falling apart. No one deserves this, least of all you. Geez, this puberty thing is tough stuff.

Then there is perspective. One day, which will seem like in a blink of an eye, your little 13 year-old pubescent filled boy will be all grown up. And you might just wish you could go back in time and snuggle Mr. Grumpy-pants again. Believe me, I speak from experience.

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